Højt uddannede udlændinge føler sig ofte ikke velkomne i Danmark. Foto: Linda Henriksen Foto: Linda Henriksen
1. december 2010, 09:28 – opdateret 3. juni 2012, 04:05
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Now, when I hear my children whom are barely adult speaking I am frightened about the future.
I am German, my father is Danish, my ex husband is Danish and my children were born in the US. I speak Danish but rather not write, unless I use google translate.
My daughter is fully integrated as we returned as a family back to Denmark after 20 years in the US in 2004. My son however was at age 14 to old to become "danish".
Both my children speak of foreigners in a negative light while they are with their danish friends. Just to fit in, or because they believe it themselves?
Either way, tone of voice they use is not much different from what I hear on the radio and watching danish talk shows.
As their mother I feel anxious as this hostile trend is going to backfire before too long. After 6 years I still don't feel integrated. I have other foreign friends no Danes I am close to. If I count I was invited to dinner in a Danes house less then 10 times in a 6 year time frame. Much to think about.
Well, maybe it's not about you not being danish, but about the danes in general. If I don't count invitations from parents and siblings, I've had dinner invitations 3 or 4 times in the last 10 years, and I was born and raised in denmark by danish parents. In my experience, danes socialize freely in broader circles while they're young and looking for a mate. As soon as they've established a family, most danes only see their family and maybe a few old friends from their youth in private. Partaking in workplace-related social events like "julefrokost" divide danes: as many danes abhor dealing with their colleagues when not paid to, as those who think it's fun. My wife has 2 close friends from her youth she sees 1-2 times a year, I've no close friends, only professional contacts and prefer it like that. Our gut reaction to family invitations usually is: Oh no, another week-end ruined, I needed that time for my project, I needed that time just to relax.
Our philosophy seems to be: Most personal relations beyond close family is a drain of time and energy that I can put to good use in my professional life. We're not as open and cordial to strangers as seems to be the US way. In most cases it not about xenophobia, we just don't care to be bothered.
I you're open, joyful and keep an open and interesting home with constantly renewed invitations and join at least a couple of local "foreninger" of your interest , you might in time attract another type of danes with a similar outlook, they're out there, but expect to use a couple of decades to establish a circle of close friends.
"You're from over there, not from here" A bornholmer, part tongue in cheek (part!), to a young man who like his parents was born and raised on Bornholm. Some of his grandparents were not.
Nu er der snakker om en målgruppe, som har en højere uddannelse, hvilket du ikke har siden du må flytte fra ghetto til ghetto
Jeg ville ikke leje ud til en af de utilpassede, eller nogen fra disse lande.
Jeg er flyttet, fra to forskellige byer, hvor jeg boede i "socialt boligkvarter", med masser af kulturberigere.
Lugt på opgange, støjende opførsel mm.
Jeg er flyttet, og bor i ejerbolig, et sted, hvor vi ikke vil have, hverken børnefamilier, og slet ikke "kulturberigere".
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